July 20, 2008

Question:

Good day Adena,

Thank you for taking the time to read my letter. I have written to you before but my letter was not chosen. I was involved with Neil in 2000 we have a 5 year old son now. He was my very first boyfriend and he is the love of my life. He cheated on me and I was terribly hurt – I discovered he had a 3 month old baby when I was 5 months pregnant. I needed to distance myself at that time to work through everything and my parents were encouraging me to leave (I am sorry I did). Ever since that time I am so sorry I left him, I have forgiven him completely (and accept the child) and love him more than ever. My son loves his father very much but things never seem to work for us because of outside influences.

We become involved every few months but it’s never permanent. Saturday past he told me that he loves me for taking such good care of our child Ethan (Ethan nearly died 3 weeks ago because of a ruptured appendix). My heart is shattered and many nights I cry myself to sleep.All I need to know is, will the 2 of us ever get back together (permanently). I sincerely hope you can help me.

Regards,
Samantha

Answer:

Hi Samantha,

I really can't tell you what will happen with you and Neil permanently, all I can do at this point in your lives is tell you what the possibility for a committed relationship would be. Life is way too long to see what will happen for a relationship at the very end, but I can tell you that according to the reading and what the guides are telling me that both of you carry the hope that you will reconnect. There is or will be the opportunity for genuine truth, discussion, honesty, and self analysis about what happened that will play a part in reconnecting. And I'm also getting a celebration that you both are involved with, maybe the birthday of your son, that assists in the reconnection.

Some of the problems that you need to surmount are that one or both of you feel there isn't enough to offer the other. It may be that Neil feels he has so many other things that he can't give you what he would want. I also see that starting over and working at communication and working at starting over is scary and you both wonder if the pain you have suffered will ever go away enough to do that. I want to point out that the "soul mate" connection between you is stronger than the concerns above but I am not clear that Neil is looking for the same thing you are. I think he feels complete sadness and regret but I also feel there is another woman in his life at this time. I would tell you that if it were me, I'd be honest, tell him exactly how I felt, but if he couldn't commit and let go of the other things in his life, I'd tell myself, okay, for now, for today, I need to put this on a shelf somewhere, let go of the angst, misery and loss, and move forward to someone else who the universe sends me.

I never say never Samantha, and it could be that Neil needs more time under his belt as a man, and we often allow ourselves to spend years crying over someone without actually doing anything about it before he does, and in the meantime, your heart, your sanity depend on you knowing somewhere inside that life has a lot to offer you and your son, and if Neil is to be a part of that, you need to find a way to let go, and focus on what the future is trying to give you. While I DO feel he feels the same way about you, I also feel that Neil is struggling with commitment, and to whom he is going to commit. There is a chance if you can both let go of the regret over past choices, and make a decision once and for all to start over and work at it no matter what interferes.

I hope I have helped you somewhat with this situation, and I will be sending you thoughts to help you feel more at peace with this.


Love,
Adena

July 7, 2008

Question:

Hello Adena

Thank you for listening to my question. I got remarried back in 2003. I love the man I am married to. But, since I married him and moved to the city where he lives, I've had a lot of problems with his mother, his son, and his ex wife. I am wondering if this will ever get better, and if so, when? Or will I end up divorced again? I have been pretty much pushed to my limit over these past 5 years with the things that have happened. Thanks again for listening.

Michelle

Answer:

Michelle,

I can't tell you what is going to happen at the very end of your question, i.e., the end result of your marriage because to be honest, that's still being formed right now. Contrary to what we tend to think, our lives aren't written in stone somewhere, and while there is certainly a fated aspect to our lives and the people in it, the end outcomes are always up to us. That's free will and that's exactly what it means. We get to choose our responses to events and situations. Every day that we think thoughts and pursue one action over another, we are literally moving toward an outcome. The purpose of getting readings is so that we can get some inside information so to speak about what's going on within and without so that we can see things in a different light and choose another route if we're not happy with what the reading indicates as a likely possible outcome.

When I asked the questions, what will happen with Michelle's marriage, and I projected about a year from now because right now that was all I was comfortable with in terms of future, my answer had much more to do with you than it did with your husband. It had to do with his ex wife and his mother and your feelings about them. I'm not saying that your husband doesn't have anything to do with the problems, just that when I asked the guides what we needed to know, this information was what came up.
As a wife I think you feel you are not being as supported as you want to be and I also feel your marriage is very important to you. I think you feel like you're suffering from post traumatic stress syndrome and that you have been made a martyr for this marriage without any indication that it's going to get better. You intend to stand up for yourself and you are committed to finding a way to get him and anyone else who is involved in understanding and hearing your side of the situation but part of the problem is that you carry a lot of anger and you're having a hard time forgiving them, forgiving your own past mistakes and most of all, you're having a hard time believing that given all that has happened you can actually end up making this a happy successful marriage.

I do see that you are either in therapy or involved in some kind of situation where you are being assisted in finding answers, be it with traditional religion or a counselor or metaphysical guidance. I think this is a highly important and karmic juncture in your life and if you're not actively talking to someone you trust who can help you sort out what's going on in your life and feelings, I urge you to do so. It will help tremendously.

What you need to do is deal with the familial issues at the core of your unhappiness and start over in terms of communication, and above all, what needs to happen first is to decide what your priority is. If it is to remain married then you are going to need to sit back and remove yourself if you can emotionally from the anger, and if you feel that too much damage has been done then you are going to need to face that and go from there. I feel as if you above all, are the one who holds the cards so to speak in what happens. Think about what I've said, and try if you can to ask yourself what it is in your own background , i.e., family, mother, etc. may have mirrored the situation you are in right now and how this situation may actually be something that is here so that you can finally get to the other side of it, and cut the painful ties and associations it brings up for you.


Love,
Adena

June 14, 2008

Question:

Hi Adena,
My name is Nicholas, and I really hope you can help me. I have had a very quiet year, and have had no success in finding any work in my field? When will this change? I desperately want to just get out there and start my life. I love doing what I do, but I am starting to lose hope. If you can help me, I will be so grateful to you!

Kindest regards,
Nick

Answer:

Hi Nick,

Okay, first of all, don't lose hope. One of the things that I see as being a very strong positive is your attitude that this is what you're supposed to be doing and for you it's a dream come true or a dream that will come true. Half, no more than half of what happens to us is about persistence, belief, and holding on to that no matter what it looks like. I don't mean to bang your head against a wall when things just seem to never work out and to keep going no matter what. Often we are being given hints that something isn't meant for us when things don't work out and we are supposed to be looking elsewhere, but I don't believe that is the case in this instance. In fact, I feel you're being pressured to get it together financially and career wise because you have a wife and child and your lifestyle isn't what you think it should be at this point.

I think you need to continue doing what you love to do, I think for you in particular it's an important part of who you are, I think you are a good husband, Father, and you need to keep learning, keep being devoted to your career and how good you are at it, and your opportunity is going to come when something finally opens up. It will be in an unconventional way, it will happen in a way you didn't expect and actually your unconventional education regarding the career you've chosen is going to work for you rather than against you in the long run. Don't allow yourself to be disappointed and anguished over it, concentrate on your home right now, your responsibilities for now, do what you have to in order to keep your spirits up high and for you to feel excited by your life. Think of how many steps you've actually taken so far in the last two to three years that have brought you success.
In two years you will start a job, I believe you will have to move and honesty is my policy so I need to tell you it will not offer you what you were hoping in terms of finances but it will be what you want as an opportunity and there will be a lot you need to decide at that time. This is a bit difficult because I think that you're trying to keep everyone happy and go with your dream too, and I think the career you have chosen is a bit off the normal path and not so easily attainable, but I feel as if you just HAVE to do this.

So, Nick, keep doing it and please try and align your inner beliefs with your hope, in other words, forget this reading *smile* While I see two years as being a turning point, I see it because of the energy I'm reading right now. Miracles happen all the time, and miracles are actually every day occurrences when you decide that it doesn't HAVE to be hard to get where you want to be, and when you decide that you've already paid your dues, and when you can get your heart, head and emotions aligned enough to believe there is a position where you want to live, that will pay you what you need to be paid and that will keep everyone happy.

It takes work to change what we believe but I want you to think of things that have always come easy for you. Think of the things in your life that you have NO problem with, never have had problems with and ask yourself why. You will find that you have always for whatever reason believed that those things came naturally to you, so, I'm asking that you do it this time as well. Start to believe that a position, paid, just came, comes naturally, and that it will happen because the universe has opened up that spot and that position for you. You have put quite a lot of time, energy and love into this Nick, don't abandon it. I know you can have it happen.


Love,
Adena

June 2, 2008

Question:

My name is D and I was broken up with by a girl named J a while ago, she is in a relationship now and says she is happy(but I am not so sure), and communication between us is usually pretty bad, I would like to know how she is doing with that, mostly however I would like to know if there is anyway I can get her to come back to me.
Thank you
D.

Answer:

Hi D,

I think she wants to get married, or at least to be on the path of marriage. I know you feel that if you got her back you would have everything and it would be all you want, and I know you think she's thinking financially and not with her heart, and I can't say you're wrong. I can tell you that she's angry, hurt, and feels that you didn't move in the relationship in ways she wanted you to and there is a problem with talking about issues in an appropriate and kind manner. She feels she has been sacrificing and waiting for you to come to a decision that she can live with. She's all about good decision making right now and for her, things are black and white, no gray at this moment because she feels as if she's got a new start, that the relationship she's in has momentum, and it's worth staying with.

HOWEVER! Yes there is a chance she will come back, and when you ask if there is a way to get her back, well, let me just tell you that we can't "make anyone do anything". I can give you some direction though. Stop communicating with her for a while. Tell her very simply that you're beginning to understand what she needs and what she's saying to you. Tell her you love her and are willing (if you are of course) to move toward what she feels she needs. If you're not, you need to let her go. Then I would start to communicate after a period of time of reflection for both of you with a lot of diplomacy and openness about the problems, and find a course of action. I believe this is what she wants, action, someone to follow through and someone who is able to make decisions, talk about things openly and honestly, and with a sense of fair play.

Let me know how it goes D. Let it quiet down for a little while.

May 25, 2008

Question:

I really need help. Answering my question will be highly appreciated. I just want to know if my ex-boyfriend and I still have a chance in being reunited as lovers. I broke up with him 7 months ago. I deeply regret that decision. I tried everything in winning him back but failed. He has a new girlfriend now. I really want him back. I'm desperate. Please help me. Is there still a chance for us to be together again?

Thanks for your help.

Regards,
Mayleen

Answer:

Hi Mayleen,

I took a look at Ca for you (all private birth date and name information was edited) and the first thing I see is that he felt you were very hurtful to him in the past, and right now he feels excited, he feels that there are new opportunities on the horizon for him and he is not interested in feeling torn, or stressed out nor does he want to argue with anyone or spend time arguing or being pulled in different directions. He is still hurt yes, but he also feels much more secure with his ability to get some of the things he wants.

Mayleen, one of the things I see is that there is a woman he is thinking of who is in a position to help him financially. I do have to tell you that I think he cares about his new girlfriend. I think on a financial level if what I'm getting is accurate you may be the person who is financially in a better position than she is. While I do not think that is the defining factor of the decision he will eventually make, I do think that it is a major factor. I think his new girlfriend has done a lot to re-establish his sense of happiness. I know I'm being hurtful but I am trying to tell you what I get truthfully, I also feel that his sense of loss and sadness over you is genuine and that you are the person he is spiritually connected to on a much deeper level. I also believe that when his final analysis of the situation comes for him, you will be his choice not her. He will know he cannot give her what she really needs or be the hero she may think he is right now. He will be aware that at some point he will let her down in her expectations because as I've stated, you really are the person he will hope it works out with.

For now Mayleen, tell him you are there, that you realize what you want and that you will respect his decision and leave him be, but that you are waiting if he changes his mind. In the meantime, try and realize that (and it's hard) if this is good for you and Ca, it will be. It will just be and if my reading is accurate, it will be.



Love,
Adena

May 4, 2008

Question:

My name is Rochelle im 21 with a baby im a single parent...I want to know will i ever find the guy of my dreams or a guy period im starting to give up on all of my dreams and stuff
please help me

Answer:

I had a hard time picking a reading for this week as I received many entries that I felt I needed to answer, but I can't answer them all. I chose this one because it was the one my guide, and or, Rochelle's guide directed me to. It is hard at times to know who's guide is directing me unless I'm getting direct information from them, at which point I know who's talking to me *smile*
Thank you all for sending in your inquiry's and I will keep them on file for the future.

Rochelle,

I was immediately hit with an 8 month time period for you. Timing is not my strong suit, and normally I need to ask specifically but this time it was simply given to me, so because of that, I expect that it means you can count on the reading coming to fruition within this period. Please give it some leeway of course but I don't expect it to be too far from 8 months from now.

The first thing I see as we enter the situation you have written about is that you are afraid of starting over, and one of the things I find interesting about you is on one hand you have the excitement and the actual hope of finding someone, and on the other hand your very angry, broken hearted, refuse to take a chance and be made a fool of, but at the very same time DO want to believe that fate has something wonderful in store for you. So let me say that you need to work on the pain you feel, you need to try as hard as you can to forgive what has come before, and what others have done to you.

You need to let go a bit of thinking that what you want and what a guy may want are always going to be different and that you're always going to be at cross purposes because there is a guy who is pretty down to earth, trustworthy, financially responsible and dependable. He isn't someone who talks a lot, and I think you know him from work or will know him from work. He is highly practical, likes things like science or math, things he can count on and talk about because he is knowledgeable in those areas. Okay, you may at first be a bit bored with him *smile* but believe me, he's a straight shooter, he's a one woman guy and that may be just what you need. Try to get over the other guy you're still thinking of, try to get over the regret and the loss so you can be open for the guy that's coming in soon. This guy is someone who will make a great husband and father. Put the effort in, it's worth it.


Love,
Adena