January 1, 2012

Question:

It has been about a month since my ex girlfriend and I have split. I really love and miss her a lot. I was the one who broke up with her, but then realized that I wanted her back. She seems as if she no longer wants to be with me. My question is, will she return to me and is she the one I will marry and am meant to be with? If she is going to return to me, how long until this happens?


Answer:

AJ,

She does want the relationship. You need to talk to her, you can't go on what you think you see, or who else you may talk to. You both have other things that interfere with you being together. You need to be willing to put your feelings out there to her. It doesn't mean that you both have to be together right now, but you could come to an understanding that you have to work together to make each other a priority in two lives that have other things that have come first and kept you from being together. Pride is certainly one, other people are another, (their influence, what they think) and not being secure financially. Put those things aside and just go after what you want. Again, tell her, it doesn't have to be acted on now, just talk to her!
I believe this is a relationship that you both feel is destined to be, but the truth is, dreaming of it won't make it happen. You stepped up once, then backed off, step up again and tell her. You may be very happy with the results.

Love,
Adena

October 30, 2011

Question:

Hello there,

This request is actually for my son Z (info edited). I find him to be troubled and I have no idea how to help him. My question is what is it that I need to know or what am I missing?

Answer:

Hi,

I took a look at Z and I don't think the things that are bothering him are going to last at all. The first thing I want to say is that he's basically very happy. Not only that, but he feels secure in the basic areas of his life and he feels for the most part that things are the way they should be in his life. He's definitely sad and it's about a specific person who he has been hurt by. I think it's either a male friend or a male figure in his life who he feels hasn't been in his corner emotionally and financially. While I see this as bothering him, I don't see it being long lasting and I still see him essentially a very happy boy (teen lol)

Love,
Adena

October 3, 2011

Question:

I am wondering if you could answer my question. I am going through a very hard time at this moment in my life. What do you see happening for me in the next few months?

Thank you,
J

Answer:

J,

Don't make any changes right now. Continue thinking about the fact that you can get help with finances no matter what happened. You're incredibly smart and very objective, emotionally I know you're heartbroken and it feels right now that there are some things that can't be forgiven. You're in a transitional phase, and I think for the next few months if you keep yourself occupied with family and put that first it will help you get through this. This month you're going to be dealing with the end of this situation but you will have either his support and love, or at the very least your desire and strength in what you feel to help. In November it will be much better and that's when things start moving and the heartbreak starts going away. You don't have to tell everyone what your plans are, gather your resources, ask for help only where you know you can trust that person and trust yourself. Try and juggle what you're doing for the next few months, it's going to be okay. You will get out of this.

Love,
Adena